Another decade has come to an end and I’m finding it difficult to comprehend how much time has gone by. If I could only choose one word to sum up this entire decade, I would choose resilience. Why perhaps you may ask? On a larger scale, the power of resilience became the forefront of many social movements that have peaked during these past ten years. The world has witnessed advocates, agents, and champions of change demonstrating courage and building their resilience in the face of adversity. While there is still a great deal of work to be done, the resilience that have sparked from the people of this decade has paved the way for the work that will continue onto the next.
On a personal level, resilience was a concept I had to grasp on as a result of the heartaches and pain I experienced during the past ten years. As I reflect on the pages of my story, the resilience I have built throughout this decade showed me how to take control of my narrative. It permitted me to become the heroine and decimated the idea of ever becoming the victim. It helped mold my experiences into perspective and showed me that a life without suffering is not a life at all.
My resilience taught me how to show up for myself; to heal, nourish, and nurture my mind, body, and soul. It taught me lessons of love, loss, and forgiveness from the many battles life declared on me. I was broken, wounded, scarred yet, my resilience paved way for me to discover the light at the end of the tunnel. It showed me how to recover and take charge on the battlefield.
Building resilience did not come easy contrary to the building blocks we find in the kindergarten rooms. In retrospective, I struggled during the first half of the decade after losing two of the most important figures in my life. Thus, the idea of ever finding strength and bouncing back was like a distant dream that felt unattainable. However, as time continued to move forward and life moved on, my journey to take control over my life again, began. After all, life’s biggest disappointments can turn into the biggest blessings. With many trials and errors in combination with all of my blood, sweat, and tears, I finally conjured up the strength to construct what I have today.
Moreover, my resilience lead me to the concept of temporariness and the idea that friendships, relationships, time, feelings, and my surroundings were all temporary. In line with the latter part of Alexander Graham Bell’s quote “when one door closes, another one opens,” I used to find myself longing at closed doors because I could not find the strength to let go. Despite that, my resilience provided me reassurance that I was not flawed, arrogant, or selfish, but human and that closed doors had a deeper meaning. It showed me that with time, things will fall into perspective and that the people who have exited my life; the people and jobs that I have had to walk away from, the feelings and emotions that I felt during a specific time, were valid and crucial to the foundation that I have built today.
Overall, this decade was a decade of resilience. It formed a pathway for a better decade to come. To all of the many moons and stars I fell asleep under; all of the sunrises I was able to witness; all of greatest moments of my life; all the opportunities I was able to experience; all of the beautiful people I have come to know; all of the laughter and tears I have cried; all of the heartaches and emotions I have felt; all of the places my feet got to touch; all of the beauty my eyes got to see; all of the sound I got to hear; and all of the food I got to taste; there is not a tiny detail I would change and that my friend, is what resilience taught me.
Happy New Year! May 2020 and the new decade be filled with so much love, laughter, prosperity, and perspective.